A child’s wisdom

The other day as I was meditating I had a spiritual visitor arrive desperate to give me a message.  This wasn’t a lost soul, entity or angel as such.  It was me when I was a child.  She made it very clear to me that my life was out of balance and I needed to have some fun.

On reflection I have to admit that life has become very serious, partly due to being busy and focusing on managing my time as best I can.  I’ve really been operating on
auto-pilot to get things done but, somewhere along the way I had stopped living in a full and satisfying way.  And I’m sure I’m not the only one.  For me,
little Jackie decided to step in and give me a kick and her method is so much more effective than somebody just telling me to go and have some fun.

When we’re born our hearts are open and the possibilities for our life are endless.  However, as time goes by these possibilities seem to get hidden, swamped or discarded.  Responsibilities weigh us down and, for many of us, living becomes something that needs to be done to get through each day.

As a young child I expected to be loved.  I expected to be considered as much as anybody else.  I was curious and wanted to do things that I liked and that were fun.

I was lucky, coming from a stable and what could be termed a ‘normal’ family.  But very young children before they have learnt about the world and the circumstances they’ve been born into , have similar expectations.

As an adult trying to make my way in the world these expectations have gradually eroded but, what I realise now is how much I miss them and how influential they are on the quality of my life and on other people’s perceptions of me.

Now it’s time to bring those expectations back.   When I’m in a situation where everything becomes too stressed or serious I ask my seven year old self how she would handle it.  Let me give you an example.  I had a very busy week where it seemed nearly impossible that I was going to do everything I had agreed to do.  The only option was to forgo so
sleep to get everything done and, as I become a bit of a grouch without sleep, I was stressing myself out.  Little Jackie reminded me that I really wanted to do everything and surely that was more important than sleep for a little while.  I was reminded how sleep didn’t figure during Christmas when I was a child!

What could your child self teach you?

Jackie Notman is an intuitive adviser and coach who works on an energetic level with individuals and businesses using tools such as Feng Shui, Numerology, Dowsing, Astrology and the Tarot.   This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

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Human interests V Business interests

I’ve recently been banned from two internet forums: my voice is no longer heard.  And what sin did I commit?  Putting human interest before those of business.

Let me give you some background.  Many years ago I was a fitness coach, studied nutrition and, amongst my clients, there were many whose goal was weight loss.  I’ve also had close experience of people with eating disorders so, in some respects, food is important to me.

Whether somebody eats too much or too little the issue is the same: their relationship with food is out of balance.  And that’s a pretty big issue all on its own.  However, the more I’ve looked into this, the more I see an ever-widening gap between the human interest of people being healthy and business interests.  When I say business interests I mean the food industry (additives, fast foods and processed foods), the diet industry and the pharmaceutical industry.

Look at this scenario.  Additives and chemicals are added to processed foods.  Many of these such as sugars and sweeteners are addictive so people eat more and get fat.  As they get fat they develop health problems and so are prescribed drugs.  To get healthier they go on a diet.  Diets are not sustainable in the long term and they fail.  They get depressed and eat more and the vicious cycle begins all over again.  At the same time the food industry, drug industry and diet industry are just making bigger and bigger profits.

Based on my experience I put together an E-book explaining why dieting is not the answer and offering a plan that works.  As part of my research I’ve been frequenting dieting forums (who incidentally advertise a lot of different diets and I’m sure get paid handsomely for doing so).

So, my first ban came when I responded to somebody who said they were anorexic and wanted advice on the foods they were actually eating.  I dared to suggest that they seek help.  I was banned from the forum with no indication when I might be allowed back.

Close to that one my second ban came from a dieting forum.  This forum gets thousands of messages a day from people on diets.  The interesting thing is that a lot of them have been on diets for a very long time, bouncing from one to another, getting bigger and more depressed.  I have been advocating healthy eating as opposed to any commercial diet and guess what?  I get banned.  Underneath the message telling me I am banned is a reinstatement date.  Mine says ‘Never’.

When will we realise that putting business interests above human interests is a long term nuclear bomb?  When will individuals wake up, put down their fatty snacks and see what’s happening?  When will ‘now’ become ‘too late’?

Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer.  This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

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Law of Attraction – it’s not going to work if you fail to take this into account

Most people have heard of the Law of Attraction since the phenomenal success of The Secret (The Secret (Extended Edition) [DVD]).  It is a universal law that has been with us since Biblical times and probably before.  It states that what you give out you will receive back: hate or love – your choice.

Well, what choice is that?  Of course we all want to be happy and to have a healthy and wealthy life: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  So, we think good thoughts, we are positive, charitable and happy to serve.  We imagine what we want in our lives and have faith that we will receive.

BUT…for many people they don’t get what they receive.  Why, if it’s so simple, does that happen?

The Law of Attraction is based on the premise that there is a unifying force in the world and that we are part of that force.  This force is the basis of our physical world and can be manipulated with intention to provide our reality.  Our connection to this force is through our sub-conscious.

All well and good so far.  Quantum physics can demonstrate that everything is derived from an underlying energy and that the observer can affect the outcome of experiments on this energy.

So why do so many people have lives that they would not choose?  One theory is that of Karma.  The choice of this life has been made by our actions in previous lives.  Another is that our Soul has made the choice before coming into our physical body so our conscious mind is not aware of the reasons we are living this life this way.

The Law of Attraction suggests that we can overrule any previous choices and create the life we truly want.  Simply, we just need to instruct our sub-conscious, wind it up and send it out to bring everything we desire to us.  If this is so there is a weak link in the chain of command which may explain why so many people get frustrated with practising the Law of Attraction and do not get results.  And that weak link is one of communication.

We assume that we use our conscious mind to instruct our sub-conscious: we meditate, chant mantras, visualise, repeat affirmations, draw up picture boards and generally try to change how we perceive our reality and hope our sub-conscious will get the message.

However, the big mistake we make is by underestimating just how amazing our sub-conscious is.  It runs all the processes in our bodies whilst keeping an eye on our environment to ensure that we keep safe.  At the same time it has filed virtually everything that it’s ever registered and will use that information in future when we find ourselves in similar circumstances.  It can process up to 4,000,000,000 bits of information per second whilst our conscious mind can only get through 2,000.  It is an animal – our own animal – that we don’t understand and yet it has the power to kill us, cure us or give us the life that we want: if only we knew the language.

By understanding that our sub-conscious doesn’t just take note of our intentions, chanting, affirmations or picture boards we can make a huge leap in making the Law of Attraction work for us.  Our sub-conscious is continually taking note of our environment, where we are and who we’re with.  And if that environment is not congruent with the intentions that our conscious mind tries to communicate to it then how does it know what we really, really want?

For example, if you want recognition for your talents and state this as an affirmation daily but then, when somebody gives you a compliment on a job well done you say ‘Oh it was nothing’ that’s confusing and incongruent.

If you are looking for your soul mate but your home reflects arty images of single, lonely looking people that’s confusing and incongruent.

If you want to be an entrepreneur and star t a business but spend your time with people who tell you it’s a bad time to start a business and you’ll never succeed that’s confusing and incongruent.

And I could go on.

There’s a simple answer to this.  Look at your life using Feng Shui principles.  Feng Shui is about living in harmony with the energies that are inherent in you and your space (home or workplace).  However, Feng Shui is also about defining your goals and setting your intentions within your environment as well as your mind.  Just imagine how much more effective the communication would be with your subconscious if all those 4,000,000,000 bits of information it processes every second said the same thing: ‘I am healthy’, ‘I am loved’, ‘I am wealthy’?

So, if you’re trying the Law of Attraction, or any self-improvement plan, bring your environment into the equation too for real, life changing results.

Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer.  This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

 This Feng Shui information is general for everybody. However, there are deeper levels of Feng Shui which take into account you and your specific business or home environment. 

 If you would like to find out more about living in harmony with your environment, and using energy to your advantage, contact Jackie Notman on 07920 461574 or through her website www.fs168.co.uk

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The potted plant – and how it can improve your business

Can this humble peace lily improve your business?

Having potted plants in your office is good for the health of your employees which means that it’s also good for your business with reduced sickness rates and increased productivity.

The principle of bringing nature into our indoor environment has always been advocated by fans of Feng Shui and research is gradually catching up to prove the benefits. 

In a recent study by Dr Tina Bringslimark of the Norwegian University of Life Sciences the amount of plants that could be seen by employees had a direct correlation to sickness rates: the more plants the lower the sickness levels.

US research has also shown an increase in productivity amongst workers who have plants in their environment.  The Washington State University study showed an increase of 12%.

There are a number of reasons why plants can have an effect on us:  the production of oxygen and reduction of other toxins in the air; the production on negative ions to counter the effects of electrical equipment; the psychological belief that plants are healthy for us and so we react accordingly.

Each explanation is valid but, before you go foresting your offices take some Feng Shui advice:

  • The types of plants you choose should work within Feng Shui principles and be strategically placed to bring harmony to the energy of your space.
  • The number of plants should be adequate for the size of your space.
  • All plants need to be looked after and kept healthy.  A dead or dying plant is probably worse than having no plants at all.

With that in mind, and if you have business issues such as absence rates and low productivity to address, maybe your next business trip should be to the nearest garden centre.

Jackie Notman is a business and feng shui consultant.  This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

Business Energetics is based on classic Feng Shui principles and brings together your environment and your people into one harmonised and focussed profit machine. 

If you would like to find out more about how your business could benefit from living in harmony with your environment, and using energy to your advantage, contact Jackie Notman on 07920 461574 or through her website http://www.fs168.co.uk/businessenergetics

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Forget New year, make your Spring resolutions

Have you stuck to your resolutions?

It’s hardly surprising that New Year resolution failure rate is high (estimated at between 88 and 90%).   If you live in the northern hemispshere then you make your resolutions whilst the days are short, cold and not particularly inspiring.

This is the time of winter where we are introspective: making plans but not yet acting.  In the Feng Shui system this is the time of Water and Yin energy.  It’s not until some Yang energy starts to mix with the Yin that everything starts to stir and, at last, we wake from our hibernation ready to pursue our goals.

So, doesn’t it make sense to to set our resolutions at this time of year?  Spring is of the Wood element, creativity is high and the need to be active after an inactive winter is strong.

So, if you didn’t stick to those resolutions you made in the depth of winter don’t beat yourself up about it.  The odds were stacked against you but now they’re in your favour so why not go for it?

PS:  Is one of your resolutions to lose weight?  Then the one thing you shouldn’t do is diet.  To find out why, and what you can do that really works try Diets Don’t Work available from The Little Shop of Charms as an ebook download or in Kindle format from Amazon.

Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer.  This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

 This Feng Shui information is general for everybody. However, there are deeper levels of Feng Shui which take into account you and your specific business or home environment. 

 If you would like to find out more about living in harmony with your environment, and using energy to your advantage, contact Jackie Notman on 07920 461574 or through her website www.fs168.co.uk

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How holistic do you want to go?

For many people complementary therapy is no longer the odd, weird or quack stuff that you try if your doctor can’t help you.  Certain therapies, although lacking in the scientific research in comparison to allopathic medicine, are even embraced by the medical establishment. 

The main difference between allopathic medicine and complementary therapy (once called alternative) is that the latter treats the person holistically, understanding that every part of our body is intimately connected to the rest and that our minds, emotions and experiences have an effect on our physical health.

Although I no longer practise, I am a qualified aromatherapist and I also combined Rei-Ki in my treatments.  I got the whole holistic thing and my clients did too.  However, for me, there was still, at times, something missing: my clients weren’t always getting the results they expected.  There was still an unknown factor that wasn’t being accounted for but affected them nonetheless.

Then I studied Feng Shui.  Feng Shui derives from a belief system known as the Tao.  Chinese medicine and macrobiotics come from the same source and work on similar principles to Feng Shui.

Although the use of Feng Shui can have health benefits it occurred to me that I had only peeled back another layer of the holistic onion.

Feng Shui helps us accept that we interact with our environment both physically and on an energetic level and this allows us to expand our view of what being holistic is all about: not only do we treat our body as a whole but we can treat our body and how it lives in our environment as a whole.

So, let’s peel back another layer and examine how we can be detrimentally affected not just by location and orientation (as in classic Feng Shui) but how we can be detrimentally affected by the things we place in our environment.  Technopathic stress, or Electrosmog, is a term used to describe the negative effects we encounter from electrical equipment both outside our homes (overhead cables, phone masts etc.) and inside (microwaves, mobile phones etc.).  Energetically our bodies clash with all this equipment that vibrates at a different rate to us.  This clash puts added pressure on our immune system to perform and on our cells to function normally.

Then we have another layer.  Geopathic stress is naturally occurring disruptions to the earth’s vibrations: underground water, energy lines, fault lines etc. disrupt the earth’s natural vibration and clash with our own vibrations.  The effects on our health are similar to exposure to Electrosmog.  (You can find out more about Geopathic and Technopathic stress from my web site.)

Are there other layers?  Probably.  But we can’t discover them until we get through the ones we know about already.  So, if you really want to address your health issues, or if you’re a therapist wanting to offer an even more holistic service to your clients, then maybe you should widen your view of how you interact with this world and what being holistic truly means.  Do you really stop at your skin?

Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer.  This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

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Aerobics for your Soul (the ultimate workout)

Is there something missing in your life? You keep your body fit, you have an active mind and healthy emotions but, does it sometimes feel as if it’s not enough? What else could you need?

Some people would call it our soul or spirit, maybe our inner light. Our search for fulfilment is such big business now that Australia hosts an annual International Conference on Happiness and its Causes.

When there’s something missing in our life there is a space that needs to be filled. We may try to fill that space with food, drink, drugs, work or numerous other activities. And any of those may work – for a while. The last thing we do is contemplate the space and why we feel empty. And yet it’s the only way to really deal with it.

If there is something missing in your life, try focussing on your soul. If we don’t nurture our soul, our light grows dim but, just like your physical body, you can exercise your soul and your light will burn brightly again. However, unlike physical exercise, you do not need your doctor’s approval or expensive equipment and there are no contra-indications.

Smiley Happiness

The greatest exercise is a genuine smile

Too good to be true? Try these seven steps and see the results for yourself. Practise each step for a week at a time before moving on. This will ensure that each exercise becomes a habit and then part of your lifestyle.

Step 1 – Be kind to others
Do you feel connected to everyone else or do you leave the house each day prepared for battle? When was the last time a complete stranger smiled at you? How did you react?

We nearly always get back what we give out. Confrontation sparks confrontation, rudeness fuels rudeness, kindness attracts kindness. When you offer kindness, the effect isn’t always immediate if people are suspicious, but be prepared for this reaction and you’ll soon work through it.

You are aiming to make some connection with other people, understanding the effect you can have on somebody else and learning that it’s as beneficial to give as it is to receive. There is only one rule – don’t expect anything in return, just give unconditionally.
Here are a few ideas:

  • Smile at strangers. An American survey (Logitech 2002) found that 90 per cent of respondents thought smiling made the world a better place, 93 per cent of people usually smile back when someone smiles at them and 87 per cent said smiling made people feel good about themselves. Smiling not only brightens up everybody else’s day, it will make you feel better too.
  • Give somebody the rest of the time on your parking ticket rather than shoving it into your car ashtray.
  • Make eye contact and say good morning to people.
  • Tell someone when they look nice or if they have done something well.
  • Acknowledge when somebody is being kind to you. Thank them for their help. After all, they are probably doing their soul workout too – just like you.

Who knows what other opportunities will arise to show kindness. Wake up each day determined to look for them.

Step 2 – Be kind to yourself
Most of us would never dream of abusing another person yet we frequently abuse ourselves. Do you place excessive demands on yourself, trying to do too many things in too short a time? Do you allow yourself time to relax without feeling guilty? When you look in the mirror do you like what you see? Would you treat anybody else the way you treat yourself?

This step is about acknowledging that your soul is as worthy as every other. It’s about the respect you have for you. For some of us this may be difficult so take it slowly over a longer period of time. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:

  • Look in the mirror and acknowledge what you like. If you can’t find anything, keep looking until you can.
  • Every evening, think about what went well in your day and what you achieved.
  • When you make appointments or plan your day leave some gaps. Just 10 minutes means the difference between arriving stressed and arriving calm.
  • When you need to make choices or decisions, consider your own opinions as well as those of everybody else. This is not the same as being selfish, eg, disregarding other people’s opinions.
  • Do something for you. It’s often easier to put your wants and needs at the bottom of the list but just occasionally non-conform and put them at the top. If you find this hard then start slowly, perhaps doing something once a month and then progress to weekly.
  • Break up life’s routine. Is each day regimented? Does your life tick away with the same activities on the same days at the same times? If you get up every day and go onto auto-pilot your life will fly by and you’ll wonder where it went and why you didn’t notice. So break up some of the routine: change your make up, take aanother route to work, read a different newspaper and keep working on your soul exercises because a lively soul will reawaken your interest in life.

Step 3 – Find the beauty in everything
In step 2 I suggested you look in the mirror and notice the good things about you. Use it in this step too and find the beauty in you.

There is beauty everywhere but most of the time we are not in the mood to see or are too stressed to notice. If you have to get up early because you’ve a busy day ahead, then notice the sunrise, or hear the birds singing, or feel the peace before the rush hour starts. In a traffic jam, look up and see some of the lines and decorations of the buildings, or notice people’s gardens.

If you’re with somebody else then share the beautiful things you notice and, if they respond negatively, just keep on sharing.

You need to be vigilant when practising this exercise but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Beautiful things are all around waiting to be found.

Step 4 – De-clutter
Of course, we may miss some of the beauty if it’s hidden behind mess. So, our next step is about making some space, whether that’s in your house, handbag or car. This step is not just about clearing physical space, it’s about letting energy flow smoothly.

Energy, in all its different forms, makes up our world. Certain types of energy are active, wanting to move and flow and nothing stops that energy more than clutter.
Clutter attracts energy and holds it. It makes it thick and sluggish and, if not cleared, this will affect you. Don’t take my word for it. Have a good clear out and see how well you feel.

Step 5 – Dance and Sing
A study in Ohio, USA (Bowling Green State Unversity) showed that 70 per cent of respondents felt music was important to them because it elicited emotions. Further research at Cornell University showed that music can cause changes in our heart rates, our temperature and respiration. The same study showed that happiness was felt when a certain type of music was played.

If you’re not the type to dance and sing then start slowly and just listen to some music (make sure it’s toe tapping stuff). Join in with the chorus, quietly at first and then as loud as you like. Then start moving – that is what your body is designed to do. Let the music fill your soul and your body will respond. Put away anything breakable, the cat may want to go out too, then let rip.

Many cultures use dance and chanting to connect to the spirit world. Once you let your inhibitions go this is an excellent way to connect all aspects of you: switch off your mind, let the music tease out your emotions and express yourself through your body.

Step 6 – Wear bright colours
In summer, when the sun is shining we wear bright colours. On holiday we do the same and our mood is happy and sunny. When the days are short and cold we wear blacks and greys and blend into the day.

Brightly coloured clothes not only affect your mood but also the mood of other people who see you wearing them. Red is the colour of energy, yellow of sunshine, green of nature. There is always a place for black but there is also a place for bold colours, even if it’s just a scarf or a handbag. So be bold and brighten up the world.

Step 7 – Switch off the TV
However, you can only brighten the world if you go out in it. How easy is it to stay in and watch the box? On average we each watch over 4 hours of TV a day. Not only does TV take up an enormous amount of time but studies have shown that we become less happy, less active and more tense after watching it (Rutgers University & University of Chicago, USA).

If there’s a lot of TV in your life then go slowly: be more selective in the programmes you watch and then progress to having one TV-less day a week. Who knows how you’ll spend the time. That’s the exciting bit!

When you have completed this last step, go back to the beginning and start again.
Before you know it you won’t be taking steps at all but living a life that nourishes your soul and may just fill that empty space.

Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.

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