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Applying Feng Shui to your home or work building is one thing. It’s a sort of project that happens once and maybe gets tweaked around as the New Year comes in to accommodate the changing yearly energies.
But Feng Shui is much more than that and can be applied just about anywhere to help you achieve your specific goals.
You can Feng Shui your desk, your car, your handbag, your wallet and even your garden.
Let’s take your desk. Do you work from home? If you do this is an extremely important area as it defines your ability to earn income. Maybe you don’t work from home but it’s where you sit and do your household accounts. It then becomes the area that dictates the cash flowing in and out of your life. Maybe your kids do their homework there building up knowledge that will one day help them make a contribution in the world.
What does your handbag, purse or wallet say about you? The one thing that we’re likely to have with us most of the time when we’re away from home, it should support your journey and remind you of the things most important in your life.
A Feng Shui garden (or window box) will strengthen your link with nature, give you a space to relax and will even provide food for you and your family.
So, if you think of Feng Shui don’t dismiss it because your house is fine. Think first of the areas in your life that could do with a little improvement and then question how Feng Shui could help. After all, it only takes a little movement to become off balance and experience difficulties. Likewise it may just take a little tweak to slot you back into the beneficial life force.
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
This Feng Shui information is general for everybody. However, there are deeper levels of Feng Shui which take into account you and your specific business or home environment.
If you would like to find out more about living in harmony with your environment, and using energy to your advantage, contact Jackie Notman on 07920 461574 or through her website www.fs168.co.uk
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How many times do you make a decision to do something based on the outcome or anticipated outcome?
How many times does the judgement, approval or response of other people dictate your actions?
How many times will you ignore your inner voice in favour of others?
If it’s too many times you need the power of Anyway and the best way to explain it is through a notice on the wall of Shishu Bhavan, a children’s home run by The Missionaries of Charity Order in Calcutta:
ANYWAY
People are unreasonable, illogical and self centred.
Love them Anyway
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good Anyway
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed Anyway
The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good Anyway
Honest and frankness makes you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank Anyway
What you spent years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build Anyway
People really need help but may attack you if you help them.
Help people Anyway
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you’ve got Anyway
Isn’t it time for Anyway to have a place in your life?
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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Treading in treacle
Swimming against the tide
Banging your head against a brick wall
There are lots of ways to describe our life when things aren’t going smoothly. But what causes the ups and downs we all experience? Do we make our own problems or are the causes external and, if so, can we harness them to make our life easier?
The Chinese believe that we can. So strong is their belief that many people would not dream of buying a house or locating a business without the services of a Feng Shui master or Geomancer.
Feng Shui literally means ‘Wind and Water’ but the term describes so much more. It encompasses all that is and, when we look at everything in our world we realise that it is all energy. You are energy, I am energy and so is this earth that we live on. The Chinese call it ‘Chi’.
In Feng Shui energy rises from the earth towards the heavens and is Yin in nature. Yin is feminine, dark, soft, intuitive and many other things. Energy also descends from the heavens and is Yang in nature. Yang is masculine, light, hard, physical and also many other things. As these two opposing forces meet they jostle, striving for harmony. The movement never stops and this is what gives energy its changeable nature.
The familiar Yin/Yang symbol depicts the ever changing nature of energy
You may be familiar with the Yin/Yang symbol which represents this movement and the dots remind us that everything is made up of both Yang and Yin energies, constantly shifting.
Whilst we can characterise energy as either Yin or Yang, there are a lot of in-between stages as the two merge. These are described as the Five Elements: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal and Water.
The five element 'characters' of Yin and Yang energy
Wood energy is growing Yang and gathering strength like a tree growing up towards the sky. Fire energy reaches its peak and is extremely Yang. Earth energy has very little movement but is stable and grounded. Metal energy constricts reducing its Yang energy, looking inwards towards Yin. Water energy is yielding, flexible and very Yin before the cycle moves on again to Wood energy.
Believe it or not, everything can be classified within the Five Elements and it is the basis of Feng Shui.
In practical terms, a Feng Shui consultant will want to see that you have good support and an adequate supply of balanced energy in terms and Yin and Yang. This is known as Form School, traditionally applied to your external environment but equally valid indoors for your bedroom and if you work from home.
The orientation of your home or work place dictates the nature of the energy that is ‘feeding’ the building through its doors and windows. Known as Compass School, orientation can give a strong indication of the character of the building being assessed.
Also, we have to consider you. Your energy will interact with the energy of your home and provide an almost unique outcome.
And finally, a Feng Shui consultant will also consider timing. As Yin and Yang continue their dance for harmony so the nature of energy changes with time.
Together this information gives a complete picture of the type of life somebody is living and, if it needs improving there are many ways to bring about positive changes.
So, whilst we are all ultimately responsible for our lives, doesn’t it make sense to understand our environment and live in the flow?
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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You impose limitations upon yourself and then make a vain struggle to transcend them
Sri Ramana Maharshi
What if there were no limits to what you were capable of?
What if you could transcend all the laws of our physical world and know the truth?
What if you could live in other dimensions?
What if you could live outside of your physical body?
What if you could take time ‘being’ instead of ‘doing’?
Apologies – I’m not trying to come across as a New Age/Spiritual guru although it may seem that way. I read the quote above by Indian Sage Ramana Maharshi the other day and it struck a chord because I’ve begun to notice instances where I have been limiting myself. For example, at a recent networking event there was somebody I really wanted to talk to but he was quite well known in his field and I didn’t approach him because I thought ‘Why would he want to talk to me?’
What I should have been asking was ‘Why wouldn’t he want to talk to me?’ but that’s easy to say in retrospect.
So, I did some work on myself to try and find out exactly what self limiting beliefs I hold. These are beliefs that have probably been with me most of my life and are so ingrained that I don’t often notice them. They’re beliefs that were possibly meant to keep me safe from physical or emotional harm but, in reality, they’re beliefs that keep me chained. And I would bet that you have some too.
If you can work with a partner it’s quite easy to test your beliefs through muscle testing. Simply hold your arm out to the side so it’s level with your shoulder. Say something that is true such as ‘My name is (insert name)’ and your partner puts a downward pressure on your arm at the wrist. Because your statement is true this will be your strong reaction.
Then state a belief which you feel you may have problems with such as ‘I love myself unconditionally.’ If you do not believe this at a deep, subconscious level your partner will be able to press your arm down very easily. This is your weak reaction.
Try the technique for each belief that you feel you may have a problem with. You could hold limiting beliefs about your self esteem, your finances, your health or you may have feelings of guilt that are holding you back. When you’ve finished always get your partner to test you strong again by using a true statement such as your name, eye colour or date of birth.
It can be very hard to face up to your self limiting beliefs. It can be even harder to share them with somebody else in order to muscle test so you can test them with pendulum dowsing instead.
Dowsing is a way of accessing your intuition. With muscle testing your body reacted to an untruth by giving a weak reaction. In the same way a dowsing instrument will react in different ways to a truth or an untruth.
Pendulum dowsing uses a weight (such as a nut or fishing weight) on a piece of string or, if you’ve seen dowsing pendulums for sale, they can be beautifully cut crystals or metal shapes on chains.
A pendulum can give you a Yes or No answer in the same way that muscle testing can give you a strong or weak answer.
Hold your pendulum in either hand so the weight is hanging freely down and with enough length to allow it to swing (about 4 – 6”). Relax your shoulder and wrist and ask the pendulum to show you a Yes answer. Try to keep your mind relaxed but focused on the Yes. It may take some practice but soon your pendulum will begin to move in a certain direction. It could be a clockwise or anti-clockwise circle, back and forward, side to side, an elliptic or whizz about like a whirling dervish. You need to ask it this a few times until you are getting the same response which becomes your Yes response and will mean the same as a strong reaction in muscle testing.
Now do exactly the same whilst asking for a No response which will mean the same as a weak response in muscle testing.
So pendulum in hand, state your belief: ‘I love myself unconditionally.’ Focus on that and let your pendulum react. Remember a No is the equivalent of a weak muscle testing reaction which means that no way do you love yourself unconditionally. A Yes means that of course you do and lucky you.
You may be asking, what all this has got to do with the ‘What if’s’ at the start of this article. Well, I dowsed my self limiting beliefs and came up with a list and then I wondered what I should do with them. Okay, so I know that they’re holding me back but how do I overcome them? After a lot of consideration I worked with each one using the two words ‘What if?’
Applying that to my example of the man at the networking event: ‘Why would he want to talk to me?’ Well, what if he did want to talk to me? How would that change the situation? How would that change the way I feel?
If I turned an opportunity down because I didn’t think I was capable and I feared failure that would reinforce my belief that I wasn’t good enough. But what if I did it and I succeeded or, forget the success, what if I just did it?
‘What if’ expands your mind. It allows you to reach out beyond your boundaries and experience possibilities. After all, life is full of many, many possibilities. ‘What if’ gives you the choice of the type of life you experience. What if you were to give up, right now, one of those beliefs that are holding you back?
See you on the outside.
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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Employee engagement is certainly a buzz phrase at the moment. The Corporate Leadership Council (CLC) estimate that 20% of employees in the UK are highly disengaged meaning they are not happy or satisfied in their roles and not loyal to their employers.
However, in this current climate of high unemployment, is that really a cause for concern? People are not leaving the jobs they have or, if they do, plenty of others are looking so they can easily be replaced. Well, that attitude has a logical argument to support it but doesn’t take into account the benefits of employee engagement. Viewing people as the line in the company accounts titled ‘resource costs’ is short sighted and foolish in business terms.
Positive employee engagement unleashes productivity, creativity and pro-activity. All these ‘tivities’ mean an unrivalled energy in your company that is noticed by customers, prospects, suppliers, competitors and other people who want to become your employee.
“You sort of smell it, don’t you, that engagement of people as people. What goes on in meetings, how people talk to each other. You get the sense of energy, engagement, commitment, belief in what the organisation stands for.”
Lord Currie, former Chair of the Office of Communications (Ofcom) taken from ‘Engaging for Success: enhancing performance through employee engagement’ by David MacLeod and Nita Clarke, 2009.
Furthermore an engaged employee will behave in certain ways which will define certain outcomes such as improved customer satisfaction because the call centre staff have gone the extra mile, or reduced conflict or absenteeism because employees are happier to be at work. As a result, employee engagement is measurable and more and more research is showing that an organisation with engaged employees out perform organisations who do not have the same level of engagement.
In 2006 a Gallup survey found that organisations with low employee engagement levels had 51% more employee turnover than those with high engagement levels. A second Gallup survey in the same year showed that the Earnings per Share growth was 2.6 times higher in organisations with high employee engagement compared to those with low engagement levels.
Of course, many people are already convinced that employee engagement is a good thing. It’s the application of a strategy that causes problems. There is a plethora of studies that show what has worked for other organisations and there are many companies offering services to help you improve your employee engagement. Where to start?
- Recognise that you are dealing with people who are all different, have different emotions and motivators and need to be treated as individuals. Therefore having a ‘one size fits all’ generic solution will probably not work.
- Measuring and benchmarking is important. If done correctly you will know where to focus your effort and you will know if those efforts have been successful.
- Don’t stay on one level, think outside the box.
The levels I use are:
Intellectual
This is the basic level that most people operate on. There are many models available that help us to build teams, create effective managers, measure and benchmark, etc. It’s all valid stuff but, it’s only the beginning.
Physical
Don’t overlook the working environment. The most recent Workplace Employee Relations Survey (WERS) showed that job satisfaction levels varied across workplaces suggesting that the working environment had an impact on engagement as well as demographics and the role itself.
There are many aspects of our working environment that have an impact on us biologically, emotionally and mentally such as lighting, ventilation and colour. If detrimental this will affect employee engagement.
Metaphysical
This third level is based on classic Feng Shui principles which, in a nutshell, harmonise the energetic levels of the people, with the energetic level of the organisation, within the energetic level of the environment. Harmony is the key word here and it is a crucial factor for high levels of employee engagement.
Pull these three levels together and you have a unique synergistic solution for your organisation. I call this process Business Energetics. It’s a little out of the box and encourages you not to be a sheep. After all, if you want to stay one jump ahead in the market you need to get out of the box first and let the sheep follow you.
More information on Business Energetics can be found here.
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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If you were like me as a kid your bedroom wall would have been covered with posters and pictures. For me it was the Bay City Rollers, Jackson Five and, of course Donny Osmond. I guess you can work out my age now! For others a football team, pictures of friends or family.
As kids we put stuff on our walls that we wanted to look at. That allowed us to dream and imagine our future lives. Our pictures inspired us. We knew the value of an image and how it affects us on a subliminal level. But I often wonder if we lose that as we grow up.
Perhaps we adorn our walls now for different reasons: because we’re trying to emulate somebody else, because we saw it in a magazine, because it was a present and we feel we should hang it up, because it matches the colour scheme or because the wall’s bare without ‘something’.
Wherever we go we are inundated with images, so much that we have to block a lot of it out or our brains would frazzle. However, there are two places where images can have a deep effect on us, slowly seeping their message into our subconscious and you may not even know that it’s happening. Those places are our home and our workplace.
So let’s take a step back and think about images whether they are paintings, posters or any other artwork on display. They all visually represent something. It may be something that we recognise or it may be abstract where colour and shape dominate. Whatever is represented we will have a visual/mind reaction when we look at it. We’ll like it, not like or couldn’t really care less.
However, images have a much deeper effect on us and our choices of imagery in our homes and workplaces can be very telling. Once we understand this effect, we can use it to our advantage to make changes in our environments and, therefore, in our lives. This is a vital part of a Feng Shui consultation where images can exacerbate an issue and can often be used as cures.
What are you battling against?
This depicts a scene from the charge of the Light Brigade during the Battle of Balaclava in the Crimean War. It’s a pretty rousing picture and would not look out of place in a traditional house, perhaps in a study. But it’s a battle, it’s war, people die and there’s lots of blood. It is far from relaxing or inspirational.
If you’re looking at this scene when you work you may find yourself battling with suppliers or fighting to get your customers to pay you. And if you’ve got it hanging in the bedroom well, I think you can work that one out.
Is life a little choppy at the moment?
Here’s a classic example of the type of picture you find on many board room or senior managers’ walls. Now, I don’t know about you, but if I’m dealing with any organisation I’d be concerned if I thought they were going through rough times like the boat is in this picture.
Do you really want a relationship?
This is typical of an arty, atmospheric image. You would be amazed by people who are looking for a relationship, or can’t seem to make relationships last that have this type of imagery in their lives. On the one hand they say they want to find somebody and settle down but their walls say ‘I want to be alone.’
Relax and take it easy
Even abstracts have similar effects. The fluid shape and blue tones here represent water. Water is very Yin and is about stillness, quiet and the feminine. So it will work well in areas where relaxation takes place.
Don't even try to relax
However, this one is the complete opposite. The red makes it very Yang which is fiery, active and stimulating. Also the rectangular shapes represent a rising energy so put this in a place of relaxation and it will have the opposite effect.
Are you starting to look at your walls differently now? Any imagery you use should reflect what you want, what you aspire to. A typical Feng Shui type picture would be a mountain because it represents stability, security and support. However, there’s a big difference between the foothills and the top of the mountain. So, if your mountain picture is in front of you, make sure it’s showing the view from the top, unless you really want to stay stuck kicking your heels at the bottom.
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
This Feng Shui information is general for everybody. However, there are deeper levels of Feng Shui which take into account you and your specific business or home environment.
If you would like to find out more about living in harmony with your environment, and using energy to your advantage, contact Jackie Notman on 07920 461574 or through her website www.fs168.co.uk
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The ideas behind the phenomenally popular Law of Attraction subject are not new. Maybe packaged in a different way to allow lots of people these days to charge you money for their books, courses, DVDs etc. but the elemental message is very established.
Forward thinkers of the late 19th and early 20th century such as Ralph Waldo Emerson, Florence Scovell Shinn and Wallace Wattles had their own little boom industry selling the same ideas. And even then the ideas were not new.
But I like going back a hundred years and reading the words that they used to express the fact that how we live our lives will determine what type of life we have.
Here is one of my favourite quotes from Christian D Larson, a prolific writer who founded the New Thought Temple, was editor of Eternal Progress and spurned an Optimists’ movement with his ‘Optimist Creed’.
It’s simple but effective and there are no DVDs, books or courses available for you to spend your money on:
Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
Make all your friends feel there is something special in them.
Look at the sunny side of everything.
Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best.
Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
Give everyone a smile.
Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others.
Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.
– Christian D. Larsen
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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I recently ordered a bell for my space clearing practise which is part of my Feng Shui service. Tucked into the tissue paper that it was wrapped in was a little card with a poem on it. It started:
‘Walk and touch peace every moment
Walk and touch happiness every moment
Each step brings a fresh breeze
Each step makes a flower bloom
Kiss the Earth with your feet.’
It’s a concept so simple and yet so difficult to remember for many of us in our hectic lives.
The practise of Feng Shui is also about simplicity and being in harmony with our surroundings. Many people believe it is about minimalism, Zen or a clinical environment. But it’s really about being relaxed exactly where you are. There is a Japanese philosophy called Wabi-Sabi that is very much in tune with real Feng Shui.
Wabi-Sabi is about being. Being peaceful, balanced and in tune with nature. It does not strive for perfection but celebrates growing old and recognises the beauty in that process. Wabi-Sabi is about kissing the Earth with your feet.
Of course, it’s very easy to live this type of life if you remove yourself from the world. Retreat, become a recluse or join a monastery. The real challenge is to maintain this philosophy in the everyday world that most of us live in.
We are all told we should set goals and have an action plan to achieve them. We must look ahead and strive for what we want. We are told not to live in the past because it’s unhealthy. The past is gone and we can’t change it. So we stand in the present looking back and forth, back and forth continually.
Wabi-Sabi and Feng Shui says stop, just for a while and look around you. See the beauty in everything. Accept things just as they are. Accept the people in your life just as they are. For five minutes. Just try it.
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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Some things are hard to define succinctly. When somebody asks me what I do and I reply “I’m a Feng Shui consultant” people will understand it in a different way. If they then ask me what it’s all about do I tell them it’s about how the environment affects their lives, or how their home fits into the landscape or how they can find love or good health or wealth?
The thing is that Feng Shui is many things to many people, which is what makes it so fascinating. However, there are some common thoughts of Feng Shui and what it is so I thought I’d start defining it by explaining what it is not:
Zen aims for enlightenment
Zen is a form of Buddhism where meditation is practised to achieve enlightenment.
Feng Shui can help create a calm, relaxing place in which to meditate and, an understanding of Feng Shui will help you look at the world in a different way which is very enlightening.
Space doesn't suit everyone
Minimalism
strips something down to its most fundamental features. In terms of design or placement this can be seen as having little furniture and ornamentation in our homes and work places and ‘displaying’ what we do have.
Where this suits some people, many of us prefer our environment to be expressive of our lives which often means anything but the bare essentials.
Feng Shui supports this and advises on how to express your life in successful and positive ways through your decoration, ornamentation, artwork, images etc.
Will the toad bring you luck?
Three legged toads
, just like four leaf clovers, are hard to find. There’s nothing wrong with symbolising luck but Feng Shui doesn’t rely on superstition.
Feng Shui analyses the types of energy in your home or workplace and advises on how you can make the most of the good stuff. Feng Shui believes that you find positive energy. It’s not about crossing your fingers and hoping.
Best solutions on paper don't always work in reality
Disruptive.
Being told that the best place for you to sleep in is the broom cupboard or you shouldn’t share a room with your partner is not realistic.
A Feng Shui consultant takes account of your personal situation and works with you to find realistic solutions. A Feng Shui consultant also understands that, sometimes, subtle is best.
Extreme Feng Shui?
Expensive.
Re-position the front door or your life will be doomed – and knock down this wall while you’re at it. Who’s got the money to do that?
Well, some people have but expensive renovations are not necessary.
A Feng Shui consultant can provide a range of solutions to a problem. There are always options.
Superstitious Feng Shui?
Mumbo-jumbo.
“It’s not scientific” we cry.
Actually, there is a lot of data from studies of our environment and its effect on us: colour, lighting, noise, electromagnetic frequencies. Before such studies we relied on anecdotal evidence and beliefs. Who knows what we will prove ‘scientifically’ a hundred years from now.
By the way, do you believe in electricity? Well, we don’t know how electricity actually works so that’s not scientific. Maybe you should switch the kettle on for a cuppa and think about it.
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
This Feng Shui information is general for everybody. However, there are deeper levels of Feng Shui which take into account you and your specific environment.
If you would like to find out more about living in harmony with your environment, and using energy to your advantage, contact Jackie Notman on 07920 461574 or through her website www.fs168.co.uk
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It often seems that we humans are a complex breed. We are at the mercy of our hormones, our moods, the people around us and our external environment.
However hard we try it is not always easy to keep an even and detached state of mind. And, whatever we are trying to avoid, it seems to be first in our thoughts.
For example if we go on a diet what do we think about? Food.
If we give up smoking what do we think about? Cigarettes.
If we want more money what do we think about? How poor we are.
If we are asked what we want in our lives we say what we don’t want.
It’s as if we prefer the stick to the carrot. The motivation to make a change is because we are running away from what we don’t want rather than moving towards what we do want.
Our point of focus is extremely important when we are setting our goals and working to achieve them.
As we know from ‘The Secret’ and numerous other writings on the Law of Attraction, what we focus on we attract into our life. This Law of Attraction doesn’t consider whether we are focussing on what we don’t want or what we do want. The focus is the important thing.
So, if we are on a diet we should focus on being slim, healthy and happy at our new target weight. We should not think about food or what we are going to have for dinner because that is likely to help us break our diet.
There are many, many people who understand this principle theoretically. However, there are far fewer people, including me at times, who do not find it easy to put into practise on a regular basis.
If you are one of those people you may find the following fable helpful.
A young man is visiting the wise Elder of the village. The young man is often frustrated that his life is not more successful and that he does not have the life that he wants to have. His frustration often turns into anger and he feels life is futile.
He asks the wise Elder how he should live his life and how he can have the same contentment that the Elder has.
‘I live with two beasts inside me’ the wise Elder says.
‘One is angry, vicious, vindictive, opinionated and distrustful. The other is non judgemental, calm, kind and expects nothing of others. Each day these two beasts fight each other.’
The young man asks ‘Which one wins?’
The wise elder studies the young man before replying. ‘The one I choose to feed.’
Which beast are you feeding?
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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