It often seems that we humans are a complex breed. We are at the mercy of our hormones, our moods, the people around us and our external environment.
However hard we try it is not always easy to keep an even and detached state of mind. And, whatever we are trying to avoid, it seems to be first in our thoughts.
For example if we go on a diet what do we think about? Food.
If we give up smoking what do we think about? Cigarettes.
If we want more money what do we think about? How poor we are.
If we are asked what we want in our lives we say what we don’t want.
It’s as if we prefer the stick to the carrot. The motivation to make a change is because we are running away from what we don’t want rather than moving towards what we do want.
Our point of focus is extremely important when we are setting our goals and working to achieve them.
As we know from ‘The Secret’ and numerous other writings on the Law of Attraction, what we focus on we attract into our life. This Law of Attraction doesn’t consider whether we are focussing on what we don’t want or what we do want. The focus is the important thing.
So, if we are on a diet we should focus on being slim, healthy and happy at our new target weight. We should not think about food or what we are going to have for dinner because that is likely to help us break our diet.
There are many, many people who understand this principle theoretically. However, there are far fewer people, including me at times, who do not find it easy to put into practise on a regular basis.
If you are one of those people you may find the following fable helpful.
A young man is visiting the wise Elder of the village. The young man is often frustrated that his life is not more successful and that he does not have the life that he wants to have. His frustration often turns into anger and he feels life is futile.
He asks the wise Elder how he should live his life and how he can have the same contentment that the Elder has.
‘I live with two beasts inside me’ the wise Elder says.
‘One is angry, vicious, vindictive, opinionated and distrustful. The other is non judgemental, calm, kind and expects nothing of others. Each day these two beasts fight each other.’
The young man asks ‘Which one wins?’
The wise elder studies the young man before replying. ‘The one I choose to feed.’
Which beast are you feeding?
Jackie Notman is a copywriter, feng shui consultant and e-commerce retailer. This article is from her blog ‘Life – and everything else’ where you’ll find an eclectic mix of articles and information.
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